When youâre a virgin, about to be touched for the very first time, thereâs a few things to consider. Consider them gospel or not, but eventually, taking these into account can help you build a healthy sex life.
Thereâs the obvious ones like: donât do it because youâre under pressure or because you have to.
Other than that here are seven things you should know before losing your virginity.
If youâre girl it doesnât always hurt
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The degrees of pain vary. For some itâs painful AF. Imagine having a cut, then digging a serrated knife and twisting it. Then applying fire. When it hurts so much, stop.
But to prevent hurting, ensure dilation and lubrication. Fingers, tongues, sex toys. Use them before finally embarking upon the one eyed snake.
For girls: it doesnât always lead to bleeding
Bleeding when you have sex the first time around is caused due to the tear of the hymen. Some women are even born without hymens and others have it tear due to swimming or gymnastics. So it sure AF isnât an accurate way of determining virginity.
If somethingâs gone in there sexually, youâre no longer a virgin
Be it a tongue, fingers, just the tip, a toy⌠it all counts as sex. If itâs penetrated youâre no longer a virgin.
For boys, as long as youâve been blown or handed or even used just the tip, youâre also no longer a virgin.
Lube is your bff
Use it. Use plenty of it. Water based lubricants like KY gel and the likes. Invest in them.
Boys are likely to suffer premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction
It can go either way. Youâre likely to climax too early or fail to get an erection. Itâs all perfectly natural.
First time sex can make you pregnant
If sperm meets your eggs and youâre ovulating, itâs going to happen. Virginity is not birth control.
Itâs not a measure of worth
In some cultures, it is believed that a woman is worth more if sheâs still a virgin. Itâs 2017. We donât live by such archaic standards any more. Celibacy should be a personal choice. Not a determinant of âworthâ. If you were ever taught that a woman should be âcarefulâ because sheâs like an envelope and if sheâs used once, she loses her worth, forget such lessons. They are pure and utter nonsense. Remaining a virgin isnât a goal. Having a healthy sex life is.