Relationships 5 toxic relationship habits that people think are normal

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They do more harm than good..

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There is no definite solution to having a successful relationship but one thing is for sure anyone in a relationship is always willing to make it work.

But what happens when you think you are trying to make it work but actually damaging your relationship.

Here are five common habits within relationships that most people may think are normal but are actually very toxic.

Dropping hints

Your partner is not a mind reader so dropping hints like not speaking to your partner or finding petty ways to annoy them to feel some form of justification is not the way to go.

Instead just come out and say what you are truly feeling. Honesty is one of the major keys of a healthy relationship so speak your mind out and do not be afraid to hurt your partner’s feelings in the process – just as long as you do it in a constructive way.


The only thing that dropping hints communicates is that you and your partner do not know how to express your feelings out to one another.

Blaming your issues on your relationship

This is like emotional black mail because you end up using your relationship as bait to pass a complaint across.

If you do not like something that your partner has done, you, for example, say things like “I can’t date someone that doesn’t listen to me.”

You may think that you are being clear and honest about your emotions but your choice of words could actually be more damaging than helpful in your relationship.

No one is perfect and there are things that you are bound to find annoying in your partner. Try to ensure that you and your partner are able to communicate and give criticism towards each other without judgment.

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"Acceptable" jealousy

Most people seem to justify this with the famous statement that “if your partner is not jealous, they don’t love you enough.”

What they don’t know is that this only communicates mistrust in your partner which then causes a lot of drama and fighting in your relationship.

Some jealousy is normal but when you go to extremes like going through your partner’s phone without them knowing they might get the impression that you do not respect their privacy and do not trust them which might end up pushing them away.

Blaming your partner for your emotions

Sometimes you may feel that your partner is not really taking your emotions into consideration and you might end up taking it out on them for maybe being insensitive or not listening to you.

They might want to go out with their friends but you might want to have a romantic dinner with them and talk about how bad your day was – you retaliate by telling them how they do not care about you.

When you do this, you can come out as being selfish because you are blaming your partner for how you are feeling. They might suddenly feel like they are not allowed to plan other activities outside of making you feel better when you are down.

There's a difference between wanting your partner to be supportive and your partner being obligated to your feelings.

Bringing up past mistakes

This mainly comes out when you and your partner are having an argument.

Your partner may just feel free to let you know how you hurt them three moths ago and then you retaliate by letting them know how the comment you made about their mother still hurts them to date.

So all your accomplishing is being good at the blame game and deflecting on the situation at hand.

Deal with issues in your relationship separately unless they have some form of connection.

Being with your partner is accepting them for who they are, flaws and all.

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