Relationships Anger management 101: Seven ways to look like the good guy

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Anger usually affects you more than it does your enemy. play Anger usually affects you more than it does your enemy. (Huffingpost)

Are you always ticked off?  It's like the world is a mass of stupid people that just won't do things the way you want.  When's the last time one of your arguments ended with an amicable solution?  Can't remember? You might be dealing with anger management issues.

Anger is an emotion that every single person can relate to.  However, in the wise words of Mark Twain“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

Most often than not very few people, if any, will be willing to tell you about your anger problem.  You'll just notice a lack or reduced number of friends in your contact list. Anger does that.  It destroys relationships, partnerships heck, it will get you fired if you can't suck up to your boss.  So how do you deal with it? Read on.

1. Take time before you speak

One of the biggest lessons life will teach you is the power of words. In the heat of the moment you may say something that you can’t take back. When angry, it’s advisable to over analyze your opinions, gather your thoughts and direct them towards achieving a solution instead of retribution. Also, give people time to think through the situation before you have a sit down.

2. Walk away

“ Ahh mimi siwezi ambiwa hivyo!” is a Kenyan proverb that most often than not gets you into a lot of trouble. If insulted, let your anger be known by walking away, ignoring the statement or simply keeping your cool. You won’t sound wiser than the douchebags addressing you by giving them a response.

3. Laugh it out

You could sulk about it or save yourself the wrinkles and laugh it out. Find humour in your situation. This opens your eyes to other possible solutions or methods of dealing with your situation instead of fanning your anger into a possible outburst. Also, keep off the sarcasm. You might end up with a busted lip for being such a smart mouth.

4. Work out

No, not practice your black belt skills on the person. Talk a walk or a quick jog to burn off the extra energy caused by anger. On the bright side, you may end up doing a more thorough work out than the happy you ever would.

5. What are your relaxation skills

For some people, drawing does the trick. Others it’s music or even cooking. Go to your happy place. Find a practice that cools you down and make it your solace in times of upset.

play When you're upset, go to your happy place and cool down. (Courtesy)


6. Deal with the issue starting by yourself

In times of anger it is very to forget that you may also be the problem. No need to burn bridges, try to see things from the other person’s perspective before acting on your anger.

7. Talk about it

Look for a confidant. That one person you can tell everything and anything whose correction you can trust. Talking out an issue with someone who’s more mature or better yet, an uninterested party will let you see the problem for what it really is. You might be blowing things out of proportions.

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