Scarlet's Diary A threesome cost me my five-year relationship

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"When I said no, he kissed my cheek and told me to never look for him again..."

So many things can go wrong. play So many things can go wrong. (Courtesy)

Ménage à trois, the devil's three-way or what you simply call a threesome is undoubtedly a fantasy for many in relationships.

The idea of bringing someone else into your marital bed with the consent of your partner is quite thrilling. It shows a god-level of trust between the two of you and the comfort of understanding each others sexuality.

However, like Ann Nyawira, it can cost you a relationship.

Ann, 32, had been dating the man of her dreams. 5 years and she still had no reason to doubt him for infidelity, he was still treating her like a queen. They rarely fought, they always had a system of dealing with their problems and they both enjoyed their sex life.  That was the reason why she didn’t flinch when she sked him to fulfill one of her fantasies, to sleep with another woman. 

“He was a bit reluctant at first saying that he wasn't so sure how to feel about having another woman and me at the same time in our bed but I convinced him that our relationship would not be affected. How wrong I was.”

Ann looked for a girl she thought she was interested in, she didn't want to indulge friends since it was a one-time thing. 'I had always been interested in girls so I went out and picked up a girl from the clubs.  I was pretty excited  about the date. "

Only things didn't go the way she thought they would.

 

"After that night, I thought I had opened a door to us exploring our sexuality together.  I didn't know I had let open the Pandora's box. My boyfriend started cheating."

With a grim look on her face she told narrated how her partner started asking for other ménage dates. Just weeks after the ordeal, Ann was given a list of women her boyfriend thought might be interested in a threesome. When she refused, he simply walked out of the relationship.

"I couldn't believe it when he said that we were done.  He put it in such a simple way that he now knew that he wasn't ready to settle and was grateful to me for showing him a side of him he never knew existed. He left with a kiss on my cheek and said he would come get his things from our home.  Sure enough the next day, I got back to a house with nothing belonging to him. He had come in while I was at work and picked up all his clothes and personal stuff leaving the furniture we had bought together with a note saying that he didn't want me to look for him but that he wished me all the best in life."

Regret?

 “ Yes. Maybe if I didn’t push him into a threesome, then we would still be together.” Said a melachonic Ann, “Had I not tried to hard to spice up our lifestyle then maybe we would still be dating.”

There are so many things that can go wrong with a threesome. From one of you liking it a bit too much or one of you focusing on the third party more than their better half… chances of ruining your relationship are high.  

We asked Ann if she would try it out with another guy, she was so quick to say no. “Catch me dead proposing a threesome ever again! I’ll die a lonely woman! (Laughs). It felt like I was not sure of myself that I had to bring in someone else to pleasure my man. That’s my job.”

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