I might not find a man to love me - Annitah Raey opens up on being a single mother
Annitah lays bare difficulties that come with being a single mother
Annitah, who is known to be blunt in nature and a straight shooter, revealed that her biggest fear is that she might not find a man to love her plus her kids. She is a mother of two children.
In a touching post on her social media, the talented journalist approached the issue of condemning single mothers.
“I AM A SINGLE MUM OF TWO, MY BIGGEST FEAR IS THAT I MIGHT NOT FIND A MAN TO LOVE ME PLUS MY KIDS ON BOARD, AM SO SCARED THAT I WILL NOT FIND LOVE, I WILL NOT FIND ACCEPTANCE I WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED BY SOCIETY. I SEE HOW SOCIETY JUDGES JUDGES ME, LOOKS AT ME, THINKS AM A LOOSE WOMAN THAT I COULD NOT KEEP A MAN. SHE CANNOT EVEN SUSTAIN A MARRIAGE, SHE CAN NOT SETTLE DOWN, I AM A BAD EXAMPLE TO THEIR KIDS.”
She further disclosed to have been humiliated in family events and even excluded where spouses were required. Annitah said she has been held in disdain and even been seen as a threat in marriages.
The fierce Raey said she has been cautioned countless times to keep off from talking with other people’s husband. “I have been told countless times, please stop talking to my husband, please stop hugging my boyfriend.
Annitah narrates that most times she has been criticized and blamed for being a single mother without being given the chance to give her side of the story adding that “The woman often is guilty coz she should build her home, keep her home and protect her family, right??
“A woman should be the glue that keeps them together. That woman no matter what happens, she is expected to stay. Expected to be patient. Expected to show love, to be submissive, to be the best wife ever, a perfect mother. This woman is expected to stay no matter what happens, even if it kills her then she will have died for a good cause.”
The proud mother concluded “Marriage is a good cause, saving face in society is a good cause, living a fake life for publicity purposes is a good cause. Its a good cause to die for. But please forgive me for not willing to die for the cause. I am not willing to be a martyr.”
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