Bedroom matters 6 possible reasons why you are not enjoying s3x

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Does it feel meh?

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Making love is supposed to be something pleasurable and an experience you anticipate for.

But if that’s not the case, it means you don’t enjoy having sex. Some people actually don’t feel any pleasure while having sex and don’t see the need of it.

But what could be the problem really? Here are some of the reasons why you feel nothing during sex:

1. Stress

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Sometimes stress is inevitable in life. Worrying about bills, family, business gone wrong, and deadlines to meet at work are all factors that can contribute too stress. Sadly, stress can wreak havoc in your sex life. It affects your libido, decreases your sexual urge and lowers your chances of getting an orgasm.

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2. Self-conscious

If you are too self-conscious about your body, you might never enjoy sex. If all you worry about during sex is you belly fat and whether you are pretty enough in your birth suit, it could be the reason you are not enjoying making love. For you to experience the pleasure of making love, you got to cast all those fears far away.

3. Fatigue

Sometimes you feel tired because you have been working for long hours and other times it can be a health problem. Whichever the case, it’s impossible to enjoy having sex while all you can think of is how you are going to rest or sleep to relax your strained muscles.

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4. Birth control

Ironically, the birth control pills are supposed to make you enjoy sex without fears of getting pregnant. But isn’t it just sad that the same pills can rob you off your libido? Different birth control techniques react differently in in different women. If you sense that your pills could be sabotaging your sex life, talk with the doctor for an alternative method.

5. Communication

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Good communication is key to having a great moment in the bedroom. You have to know your body well, know which parts feel good for touch and what kind of touch arouses you.  Once you know that, direct your partner. And you don’t have to tell them – just direct them using non-verbal cues. Otherwise, they will be having a good time while you don’t have an idea of what sexual pleasure is like.

6. You are not ready

For you to enjoy making love, you must be emotionally, physically and psychologically prepared. If your partner is the selfish type who is always rushing things because they feel ready when you are not, could be why you have no pleasure. For women, it takes time to get aroused and the foreplay must be enough to make her ready.

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