Have you ever been in a position where you liked two guys at the same time and did not know how to decide on one?
That’s a good problem to have. But, how do you make the right decision without fucking up? I mean, you can’t date both of them, well, technically you can, but that’s not how it should be. You need to decide on one guy and ditch the other. We will show you how to pick the better guy.
1. Ask yourself what you really want in a man and what you want in a relationship.
Do a list of the qualities each guy possesses and see who has what you want. It’s also important to see who is more stable, financially and emotionally, while being capable of giving you the kind of love you deserve.
2. A pros and cons list on each guy will also help you make up your mind.
What do you like about guy 1? What don’t you like about him? How about guy 2? Do the same and compare.
With whom does it feel natural? Do you share interests? Do you see yourself in future with this person? Find out as much as you can about each guy. See where they are at in life and figure out if you're both on the same page in terms of starting a new relationship.
4. Physical attraction.
Of course, if you like both guys, chances are, you probably already find them really attractive. But how’s the sexual chemistry? Who makes your knees go weak? Personally, I would sleep with both guys to find out. Lol but don’t follow my advice. That’s just me. If you’re worried about throwing your morals to the dogs, you can kiss both guys or have a bit of intimate time and see who makes you feel gaga. A simple kiss should tell you if you’re sexually compatible or not. Everything will flow, your clitoris will tingle, you will want more…if you feel the same with both guys, eh, just go to plan b, let them both prove their bedroom skills, for you to decide.
5. Watch out for deal breakers and red flags.
From your list in point number 1, figure out what some of the deal breakers are and whether or not you’re willing to compromise. Also, look out for some of the red flags - small lies here and there, and such.
6. Ask your friends for their opinion, if they know the guys.
If your friends know each guy very well, it could be wise to ask for their opinion. However, if they do not know the guys, they may not be able to give you the best advice. Getting an unbiased opinion from someone else may help you see things from a different perspective.
7. Spend a whole day with each guy.
You know how like in 'The Bachelor', the guy spends a whole day with each of the final two ladies, just to get a feel of how the relationship would be like and to help him make the best decision? Yeah. You need to do that. Spending a whole day with each guy will help you decide on how you really feel. Have the same conversations with each guy and see how it flows. Do they bring out your peaceful and happy side? Do they make you feel comfortable? Do they have an aura of good vibes?
8. If you wake up to a text, which guy do you hope it’s from?
Guy1 or 2? Right there is a strong clue. It shows you’re more inclined to the guy you hope has messaged you.
9. Spend time away from both guys.
Whom do you miss the most and can hardly wait to see again?
10. What does your gut feeling tell you?
At the end of the day, you should always follow your heart, but of course, take your brain with you.