Why you have not met your boyfriend's family

Meeting the parents is a huge milestone in a relationship. Most of the times, a man will not introduce a woman to his parents unless he's very sure that she's the one he wants to be with in future. At the same time, he could be deeply in love with you but due to some circumstances, avoidable or unavoidable, he's afraid of taking you to his parents. Here are some reasons why that could be the case:

1. You're his side chic.

At the end of the day, we live in a cruel world. His parents might have already met the main chic and you're nothing but the side piece, unbeknownst to you. If that's the case, you definitely do not expect to meet the parents, now do you?

2. He's not serious about you.

Related to the first point, if you're in a relationship with a man who's not sure where the relationship is headed, then chances are, you're not likely to see the parents soon. When you get into a relationship, before things get serious, it's important to know where you stand. Discuss on the relationship and figure out if you're both on the same page and if you both want the same things.

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3. He thinks it's still too soon.

A man will take you home when it's the right time according to him. No need to push and pressure him if he's not ready. And remember, meeting the parents still doesn't guarantee anything. You could meet the entire clan and a man will still break up with you so take it easy, play your role as a girlfriend and when he's ready, he will introduce you to his family.

4. He's not close with his family.

When the relationship between a man and his family is broken, he may have reservations when it comes to introducing his girlfriend to them, simply because he does not want them to interfere with his love life. It's normal.

5. He's embarrassed by his family.

Let's face it, sometimes, people come from very complicated backgrounds. Alcoholic fathers, abject poverty and what not. Your boyfriend may not be taking you to meet his parents simply because he's embarrassed of his background. It's a possibility, especially if you both come from very different backgrounds.

6. He's embarrassed of you.

Maybe he loves you as you are, even when you get tipsy and become batshit crazy. However, he's not quite sure if his parents will see what he saw in you. Maybe, just maybe he's waiting for you to prove yourself. In that case, if you have bad habits, it's time to change your ways and act more sophisticated and carry yourself in a presentable manner.

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7. Cultural/religious/political reasons.

You're from different races, tribes, religions or have different political views. Sadly, we live in a world where this is still a big issue among many families. Many people of the older demographic are still very traditional and are not as open minded as we would want them to be. A man may not take you home because he knows very well that his parents will not accept someone who holds different moral/cultural/political values from them.

8. Past experiences.

He may have taken home another woman and that did not go down well. Maybe they started interrogating her and making her super uncomfortable with a million questions and he doesn't want a repeat of the same.

9. He’s not ready to commit.

He's afraid of committing and taking that next big step. If you feel that you have been in a relationship long enough to meet his family, there's no harm in asking when he will introduce you to his loved ones and also asking what to expect in future. At the end of the day, if you're in a non-progressive relationship, it's better to call it quits than waste each other's time.

10. He has not met your parents either.

Some men will wait for a cue...you may ask him "How come I have never met your parents or family members?" And he will argue that it's because he has not met yours either. If you feel it's the right time and you're both on the same page, you could start by introducing him to your family or some family members, start with baby steps and see if he warms up to idea and maybe once he has met your family, he will be comfortable enough to introduce you to his.

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11. Logistics.

If his parents live in another country or a bit too far, maybe he's simply not bothered to make the whole trip. If you think about it, travel costs especially from one country to another could be high and maybe he's not financially able just yet.