For Women Why you should initiate sex more in your relationship

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It's not every time you wait for your partner to make the first move.

Why you should initiate sex more often. play

Why you should initiate sex more often.


By the natural way humans are wired, men usually have higher libidos than women due to presence of higher levels of testosterone.

Not only has it been claimed that the average male thinks of sex at least once in a day, men have also been known to initiate sex twice as much as women do!

These reasons have somewhat made it ‘natural’ that men should be the ones to always initiate sex and get every happy hour started.

For women in relationships and marriages, though, you can’t afford to think this way.

Would you say yes to a man who hates oral sex. play Men have no qualms making the first move, but it could get tirinf at some point. (Shutterstock)


Letting your man initiate sex all the time, and refusing to take the lead is not good enough. You need to learn to take the bull by the horn. And this is not something to begrudgingly do occasionally or once in a blue moon.

ALSO READ: Ladies, how to overcome shyness & initiate sex like a Queen Bee

You have to become comfortable enough to do this as many times as possible.

One reason for this is that while men have no qualms making the moves on you for sex, it gets to a stage where they can’t decipher if you really want to do it, or if you are just doing it because they want to do it.

And really, this could douse the sexual spark in that marriage or relationship. Sex is better when both partners have a confidence that that’s what the other person wants at that moment.

Secondly, men also want to feel wanted. It is mindblowing for many when they are chased and openly desired.

You'll very likely be unhappy in a relationship with these three behaviours. play If you wait for your man to make the first move on you everytime, it'll most likely get tiring and the sex life will suffer for it. (Oklahoma Eagle)


So, when you leave sexy messages on the bathroom mirror about what awaits him in the bedroom later at night and actually make the move on him, it does a lot of good for that sex life of that relationship.

ALSO READ: Questions you shouldn't ask men during sex

Again, covertly/actively asking for sex from your partner is good for his ego and the overall happiness in that relationship or marriage.

While every woman is meant to know this, it is more important for women in relationships and marriages as it could be the difference between having a healthy sexual life and having one that’s lukewarm and boring.

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