Jason Biggs

<p>Im a professional actor, but probably did an amateur-level <a href="https://www.menshealth.com/trending-news/a19545762/how-to-land-dream-job/" id="3730cb8c-755f-3f50-a86f-fd4ca3d9c2ee">  job </a> at hiding my surprise.</p>

<p>Are you sure, doc? Perhaps you need to run the test again. Lots of <a href="https://www.menshealth.com/health/a26063314/ketosis-breathalyzer-alcohol-false-positive-low-carb/" id="9da021e0-1ea6-33aa-a4a5-b9c328e5ac55">  false positives </a> these days, I said, not knowing exactly what a false positive was or if it even applied to this situation.</p>

<p> Its not that I wasnt happy. Its that I had never been so sure of anything as I was that I would be having a daughter.</p>

<p>Even before I met my wife, Jenny, and the idea of having children became real, I had always pictured myself having a girl. When people asked if I ever wanted to be a dad, Id enthusiastically respond in the affirmative, while picturing myself sipping fake tea with my pre-school aged daughter or joke-threatening her high-school boyfriend.</p>

<p> But, expectations aside, there was also something else and, okay, Ill admit it: I pee sitting down. </p>

<p> I always knew that doing so was atypical. To be clear, there are certain guidelines that I follow closely: I only sit down to pee at home or in nice hotel rooms, and never in public restrooms. </p>

<p>I dont necessarily think this is the exclusive result of living in a house with mostly girls. In fact, this is not a practice my dad adheres to, though he admits to being overly cleanly. The resulting combination of female influence and an impulse to sanitize is why, I believe, I continue to be a part of the male minority.</p>

<p> My peeing preference wasnt something I had to deal with in a dramatic way until DNA decided to flip my expectations. I knew I still had time, if only a few diaper-laden years, to continue to live comfortably without having to explain myself to my children. Even through potty training, my oldest son sat to pee because he knew thats what I did.</p>

<p> But then came the day of reckoning: That same son, age four, came home from pre-school and told me that other boys at school stood when they went, and he wanted to know why I didnt.</p>

<p> What pigs, I thought of my son trying to avoid stepping near the urine stains on the floor by the bowl. How do men live like this? Then I thought of myself living in a home with little-boy pee splattered on every surface of every bathroom. Gone were the days of my peeing with peace of mind. I began to wretch.</p>

<p> But I resisted detailing all of this to my son. In fact, not only havent I made a fuss the couple of times Ive caught my son standing up to pee, but Ive encouraged him to do so. I have declined the role of enforcer of the correct or even normal way. How I thought guys should pee was my hang-up. And demanding my kids do otherwise would just be selfish. </p>

<p> From the exact moment the doctor told me I would be the father of a daughter and not a son, Ive learned that my expectations as a parenttoilet-related or otherwisehardly ever play out. All the hand-wringing over what my sons would think of me as a sit-down-to-pee dad never materialized. </p>

<p> When my son came home from school that day he wasnt accusatory. He wasnt judgmental. He was curious. My oldest saw something different and accepted it as just that: different. Which way he eventually decides to pee is up to him, as is he how he feels about the way Ive decided.</p>

<p> When I cede control to my kids to make their own decision, my anxiety about a messy bathroom and, perhaps even more importantly, my anxiety about parenting the right way drops. Thats freeing for meand for my wife and kids. Even if I have to sidestep a few puddles on my way to put down the lid.</p>

Jason Biggs Is Totally OK With Sitting Down to Pee

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Jason Biggs Is Totally Cool With Sitting Down to Pee