Girl spends life disguised as 'son' to please her parents
She deepens her voice to hide her actual gender.
With 5 sisters and no brothers, Sitara lives by means of the gender-twisting customized referred to as “bacha poshi”, which in Dari refers to a woman “dressed as a boy”, enabling her to soundly carry out the tasks of a son within the patriarchal nation.
The 18-year-old, who is living along with her impoverished circle of relatives in a mud-brick area in a village in Afghanistan’s japanese province of Nangarhar, has pretended to be a boy for many of her years of existence.
Each morning she places at the saggy blouse and trousers and turn flops usually worn by means of Afghan men. From time to time she covers her brief brown hair with a shawl and deepens her voice to hide her actual gender.
“I by no means assume that I’m a lady,” Sitara tells AFP on the brick manufacturing unit the place she and her aged father paintings six days every week as bonded labourers to pay off cash they borrowed from the landlord and feed the circle of relatives.
“My father at all times says ‘Sitara is like my eldest son’. From time to time… I attend funerals as his eldest son” — one thing she would by no means be allowed to do as a lady.
Bacha poshi has an extended historical past in deeply conservative Afghanistan, the place boys are valued extra extremely than women and girls are ceaselessly confined to the house.
Most often it’s households and not using a male heirs who make a daughter get dressed as a boy so she will be able to perform the tasks of a son with out getting stressed, or worse.
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