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Honestly, getting kids is overrated and the pressure the society amounts on people to get kids is on another level. And really, whether to get kids or not is a personal decision. Yes, you read that right. You owe nobody any kids. Just like you owe nobody a marriage.
It makes no sense to have kids only to realize later that it’s not your thing. Then your children will grow up feeling distant because you can’t love them as you should and be there for them. Then the very people who pressured you to bring lives on this earth will be yapping of what an irresponsible parent you are. See what I am talking about?
Don’t cast the stones yet. I am not saying that people should not have kids. All I am saying is that you should not give in to societal pressure if you are not ready or you simply don’t want to ever have kids.
If you are torn between having kids or not having them, below are some reasons why you could consider not having any. The decision is all yours though:
1. Kids are damn expensive
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Some people will argue that not having kids, for this reason, is being selfish. If you have had a taste of poverty, you will not want your kids to go through the same. And if you can hardly pay your bills, it makes no sense to get a kid yet.
2. Your sex life will no longer be the same
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Well, this is not for everyone but if you ask most couples, they will attest that things have since changed. Some women lose interest and the couple may have trouble dealing with the bodily changes that come with giving birth. Plus, you will be so busy taking care of your bundle of joy that you won’t have much time for sex.
3. Kids don’t fit into every lifestyle
You want to travel to 50 countries and still have kids? You would have to forget about your dream to travel the world so that you raise your kids. What if you are not willing to sacrifice your precious time for kids? Then you will be happier without kids. If your schedule cannot allow you to spend time with your kids, you are free to have none.
4. Kids come with responsibility
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A lot of it for that matter. And if you are a woman and your partner is not supportive enough, it can be really draining. Imagine juggling between work, being a mom and taking care of your husband. If you don’t feel capable of this sort of thing, let no one pressure you to get kids.
5. Because you don’t feel like
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This is a more than enough reason not to have kids. Whether you simply don’t like kids or you just don’t feel like having any, it’s good enough.
As I said, the choice is all yours.
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