The stereotype that all women only want money and that all men only want sex has robbed men and women of sharing their best qualities to form healthy relationships.
5 traditional qualities money has replaced in modern relationships
There are valuable traits that men and women have shunned and replaced with money and sex to attract the opposite gender. See five of them.
The battle of the sexes in modern relationships is each gender proving its value in the partnership.
This shift in tradition is attributed to exposure to different cultural mindsets escalated by social media and economic pressures.
Value has defaulted to money and sex as the bare minimum that each gender is willing to do for the other.
Amidst this, there is a rise of "Alpha males" and masculinity groups. In these groups, men are more willing to share valuable relationship qualities than with females.
This is not to say women don't rely on money to escape the task of sharing similar qualities in relationships.
It's almost like saying 'if you want money or sex that's all you get from me.' Some people want commitment before establishing healthy foundations, others shun relationships because of money, and others think that the women who don't want money or have their own money are the best.
In such conditions, here are five traits that are rarely appreciated on the dating scene.
Drive or passion in a partner is a valuable trait. Not only is it great for individual mental and emotional wellness, but it is also attractive and a better predictor of a potential partner than money or good sex. Passion can be about work, a hobby, or an interest that contributes to personal and relationship value.
Intellectual or physical skills are important for personal well-being. It is a more stable income generator and sustainable in the long run. For individual security and building a healthy relationship, skill offers more freedom.
Self-control and maintaining a degree of mystery are healthy in relationships and individually. These traits are vital in handling easy access to social media and the internet. The urge to share problems, copy behavior, and be influenced, is more potent today than ever. As well as managing time and responsibilities amidst distractions and notifications.
Money comes with an increase in self-worth, more influence, and control. However, if it is the only way someone has control, self-worth, and influence, it can be a source of low self-esteem and relationship problems.
Insecurities about being loved for their money arise. It is also a factor in the belief that all women are after money when a person doesn't have true confidence in who they are and their value.
Emotional abuse and physical abuse can also stem from 'borrowed' confidence.
Real friends and making genuine connections that support an individual contributes to general well-being. Friendships and networks are easily overlooked when the goal is to get the 'biggest bag'. Moreover, this competition is detrimental to getting along with people and building healthy relationships.
The information contained in this article is the editor's thoughts and opinions.
JOIN OUR PULSE COMMUNITY!
Eyewitness? Submit your stories now via social or: