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YouTuber and content creator Ninah, of the Gospel duo Wapendwa Muziki, has addressed the controversy surrounding her recent comments about her husband, Mesh.
Ninah, who has a significant online following, sparked a heated debate when she referred to her husband as a 'kafukuswi',a term popularised by fellow content creator Andrew Kibe.
The term, which generally refers to men who are perceived as overly emotional or weak, has become a topic of intense conversation after Nina’s remark.
Ninah calls hubby a 'kafukuswi'
In a recent video, Ninah was seen advising her husband to be more composed and confident, especially when they are in public. She recalled a moment when the Wajesus family surprised them with a house makeover, and Mesh cried during the visit.
Ninah, frustrated with his emotional outburst, used the term 'kafukuswi' to describe him, telling him to be strong and control his emotions.
I don’t like how you act as if you’re not composed...The other day, they surprised us with a house makeover, and you cried like a child. I want you to be strong—the way you talk, the way you walk. I don’t like you showing too many emotions.
The comment caused an uproar among netizens, with many questioning whether it was appropriate for Ninah to publicly call out her husband in such a way. While some felt her words were harsh, others believed she was simply trying to motivate him to be more confident.
Ninah defends her comments
In response to the backlash, Ninah took to social media to clarify what she meant by her comment. She explained that her intention was never to disrespect her husband, but rather to help him grow.
According to her, when she first met Mesh, he lacked confidence and needed guidance. She explained that she had 'upgraded' him, transforming him from someone with little self-assurance into the person he is today.
Ladies, groom your man. If you want him to become a billionaire, groom him into becoming a billionaire. You know, when I met my husband, he was a 'malenge' (pumpkin). In fact, a malenge promax. I loved him but I knew here I had to a groom job. I started to groom him, and right now, my husband is an amazing singer. I taught him how to sing.
She went on to praise Mesh for his progress, highlighting his talents as a singer, songwriter, and videographer. She also expressed pride in his growing abilities and his continued success in the entertainment industry.
Ladies, you are there with your man and truth be told, you do not like how he talks like he has no teeth. You better say it, so it leaves you, and tell the guy. You are there persevering. And then you start getting ideas, thinking about cheating.
I don't want to get to that point where I am going to start thinking of cheating or other things, so I am going to talk. The Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing, I am that good thing. I want my husband to say when I met Nina, my life changed.
Public and private debate
While Ninah's intentions may have been to help her husband grow, her public comments have sparked an ongoing debate about whether it's appropriate to call out a partner in front of the public.
Moreover, her comments have reignited a broader conversation about the dynamics of public relationships and whether it is healthy to air private matters online.