I’m in my twenties. And I am no life guru. But I associate with a lot of older people who reminded me what being in the twenties is all about.
11 lessons you should learn in your twenties
Your 20s are the new black
Besides aiming to get arrested for loitering at least once or smoking a dooby, here are twelve things you MUST know about your twenties.
Your friends’ success has nothing to do with yours
So you always wonder why your time isn’t there yet because your buddy already has a car, well-paying job and is married. You’re probably a shiftless layabout renting your folks’ SQ with an entry level job. You need to remember that just because you were classmates doesn’t mean you share a life. Ask yourself why you don’t wonder about your buddies’ failures causing more failure in your life.
You come first. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Consider your well-being and mental health first. If not for the sake of your sanity then for your future.
Social media is a lie
The thing with IG and Snap is that they don’t have a side B. Nobody will share with the public about how badly their days are going or how they struggled to get rent. It’s always sunshine and diamonds, so don’t guide your life decisions based on the fact that Njoki has a new Mustang and you can barely afford bus fare.
Don’t succumb to pressure
There will always be external forces who think they know better than you. Parents, spouses, elder siblings. They will always have something to say. They will force you to take a job you don’t want or make you get married before you’re ready. Just don’t succumb. Make them see reason or ignore them altogether.
It gets worse before it gets better
Your first few jobs, if you’re one of the ones who haven’t ridden on the coat tails of straight A’s or dubious networking, will be horrible. And if you’re one of those entrepreneurs or ambitious corporate climbers- it will get worse before it gets better because of other human elements and because, for some reason, life just has to go that way.
Take advantage of your support systems
Your parents, your friends, your family friends who own companies, take advantage. Don’t worry about “being unfair”. Fairness won’t pay your bills.
This goes without saying.
Don’t accept every opportunity
Some things will be a waste of time and energy. You don’t need to work every job that opens up for you. Make considerations for pay, room for growth, actual responsibilities and the reports of former employees about the work environment.
For crying out loud, use a condom.
Get regular health check-ups
With how many lifestyle diseases are on the rise, it would be extremely prudent to get prostate exams, cancer screenings, pap smears etc. as often as possible. Even dental exams.
It’s ok not to know
One thing millennials like to punish themselves for is not having the answers to everything. But most adults will tell you that it’s ok not to know. What is unforgivable is being arrogant about your ignorance. Care. Read a book. Watch international news. Pay attention. There’s more to the world than how many people liked your latest selfie. You’d be surprised how much of a difference 20 year olds could make if they knew what to do beyond Twitter and only showing up to vote.
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