You would never believe 10 things men fear the most when having sex with someone new

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Ever wondered what men fear when having sex with someone new for the first time?

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Having sex with a new partner is daunting. For men, some of these fears range from the understandable to the bizarre.

Here are ten fears men have when having sex with someone new.

Not getting it up

Erectile dysfunction (or limp d*ck syndrome) is a fear for all men. And while most men don’t actually suffer from ED, there is always the lingering terror that when she’s warm, wet and ready to go, the little man just won’t get up and stay up.

Bad smell and taste

She’s new and the explorations haven’t been extensive. And you finally get a chance to get up close. Men always fear that she may have an unpleasant smell or taste and wonder how they should react if that is the case.

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Everyone fears this when dealing with a new partner. It’s always responsible to get tested before having sex. And to always always use a condom.

Getting her pregnant

She’s still new in his life and the last thing the guy wants is to accidentally impregnate her.

How she’ll react to his penis

Whether it looks of a substantial length and girth or whether it looks like a horse’s or whether it is the size of a finger, men always harbour a slight dread as to how their new partners will react to their members. Will she think it’s too curved? Too short? Too skinny? Too wide?

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That she’s an undercover cop

This is especially worrying if the sex is transacted.

That she’ll be inactive

Every man worries about whether she’ll just lay there silently and if it will be a bad reflection on them or if they were actually never good in bed.

That she’s faking

When she reacts enthusiastically and there are no distinguishably accompanying physical reactions, men will fear that she’s faking.

Read: 7 Signs To Tell If A Woman Is Faking An Orgasm

When she’s too loud

There is always that worry when she becomes excessively vocal that the neighbours will come and bang your door to get you to keep it down.

Vagina dentata

This describes a folk tale in which a woman's vagina is said to contain teeth. Men have this ridiculous fear that the teeth in her vagina will castrate and emasculate them. It was used as a myth to discourage sex with unknown women. But some men still believe that women they haven’t had sex with before want to bite their schlongs off with their vagina teeth.

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