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6 warning signs that your partner is an abuser

Authors:

Anne Wangechi

How to spot an abuser

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Relationships are not easy but you can make them work if both of you are willing to do it.

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But you also have to be compatible sexually and also in terms of character. Some partners will take advantage of you, abuse you emotionally and physically, making it unbearable.

But before it gets to a point where you can’t handle anymore, you should leave the relationship. But how do you know if the person you are dating is an abuser or not?

Watch out for these common signs of abusers:

1. Entitlement

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We are all entitled to certain things in life. However, we should also consider those around us and how our entitlements affect those around us. An abuser feels entitled to their decisions, they can say anything, do anything they want without caring whether it hurts you.

2. Superiority complex

They are always trying to prove how smart they are, how talented they are and that they are better than you. To them, everything is a competition. And when they have to, they will make you feel bad about yourself just to prove that they are better than you.

3. Quick involvement

You just met a few days ago and he wants you to move in, meet your family and have a joint bank account. Think twice about it. He is probably trying to show you how much he needs you while all he wants is an opportunity to abuse you.

4. Jealousy

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We all love when our partners show some jealousy but too much of it is not a good thing. If your partner is all over you, frowning when you talk to friends and getting insecure when you’re not around them, that’s a warning sign of an abuser.

5. Controlling

If your partner always wants things to happen their way, it’s a sign of being controlling. A controlling person pushes his way through and will interrogate everything you do. You have to explain who you are talking to, why you are not answering their calls, and how you spend your money.

6. Blame game

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They are always looking for someone to blame for their mistakes. Even when it’s so clear that they are at fault, they will always shift the blame to someone else.

Authors:

Anne Wangechi

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