8 things intelligent people don't say
Life and career suicide is in the power of the tongue.
That’s why it’s wise to pick your words however close they are to the truth. Dr Travis Bradberry in an article shared on Linkedin Pulse stated, “Emotionally intelligent people know that certain phrases carry special power—they make you look bad even when the words are true.”
This is the reality of most work places hence the need to watch what you say. Luckily he also listed down a number of things smart people don’t say. Read on.
1. “It’s not fair.”
This shows your level of immaturity. Instead of taking this stance, you can instead ask something like this, “What made you come to that decision? Is there anything I can do to change it?’
2. “This is the way it’s always been done.”
We live in fast developing world, it’s easy to be left behind. However, saying things like, “This is the way it’s always been done” makes you look less innovative, resistance to change and very lazy.
3. “I think/This might be a silly idea/I’m going to ask a stupid question.”
Dude, whose going to believe you when you don’t seem to yourself. It’s not humility, its career suicide. If you’re not sure then ask for time to research. You’ll be respected for your honesty rather than second guessing yourself.
4. This will only take a minute
This is meant to make you look efficient (which it does) until it makes your seem impractical. You know, when it takes an hour longer than what your boss expected. There’s no need to raise expectations unless you’re sure that you can do it.
5. I’ll try
This shows your lack of confidence in yourself. Instead, accept the work and do your best. If you can’t hack it, then at least the bosses know that you gave it your best shot. No one is blamed for that.
6. It’s not my job description
We kid you not, human resource will get wind of it. It’s in your best interest to ‘seem’ like a hard worker who is ready to take up whatever roles that are coming your way. If you don’t feel like doing it, just apologise and say that you’re swamped with your work already. Be careful with how you phrase it.
7. He’s incompetent
Because who made you boss?
No one likes a judgy Nancy at the office. There is no alternative to this one. Just keep your colleagues’ names out of your mouth. Unless you’re praising their good work.
The worst is if they prove you wrong and you end up looking like a jerk.
8. It’s not my fault
Take blame when it’s your turn to do it, keep quiet and correct later if you’re dealing with authority. Especially when there are more people around you. Instead of passing blame, listen to what the boss has to say and if you still don’t feel like taking blame just acknowledge that you’ve heard what they had to say and that you will put it into consideration.
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