2 years after cancelling wedding, runaway bride explains why she left betrothed at altar

Narrating her ordeal, Bunmi stated that her refusal to marry the groom has led to an estranged relationship with her family.

Bunmi claimed to have been pressured into accepting her fiance's marriage proposal. [Illustration Purpose Only]

This has led her to experience hostile treatment from her family who blamed her rather than show empathy to her plight.

According to the woman in a series of Twitter posts via her handle - @bunmi_bum_bum, the pressure to get hitched at the age of 30 influenced her into agreeing to marry the disappointed groom.

She however had second thoughts about the union on the day of the marriage.

Only her time wasting tactics could save her from entering the marriage but this came at a cost.

Bunmi is now at loggerheads with members of her family.

"I left my man at the altar and now both his family and part of mine hate me - a thread...," she began in a comment posted on Friday, May 12, 2017.

"It was a Saturday in November 2015. It was supposed to be my wedding day. But I was still unsure. I'd been pressured to say Yes. I was sad.

Everyone was like: "You're over 30; he's okay, has a good job. What is your problem? Just go through with it!" My problem? I wasn't happy!

He'd never hit me, but I just didn't like him like that. I asked for time. Everyone said: "No! You agreed, you must go through with it!"

That morning, I was crying. My mother said it's normal. I couldn't accept that. I felt like I was being sent to a cage. I wasn't happy!

All the fear and anxiety gave me running stomach. I locked myself in the bathroom. One hour; going on two. They said they'll break the door.

11AM and we still hadn't left the house for 10AM wedding. My dad asked me: Is there somebody else? I said no. He said: You want to shame us.

I lied then that I loved somebody else. There was nobody but I thought that would make them agree to cancel the wedding. They still refused.

By 11:30AM they were trying to force me into the car. My Dad's elder sister, who had come from UK for the wedding, said: "Leave her alone!"

She said I had a right to change my mind. If I didn't want to go through with it, then I shouldn't. Still, some family members insulted me.

My Dad said I should leave his house. His sister said the house wasn't his but their late father's (my granddad). A big quarrel broke out.

My Dad now said I was the one to call my husband-to-be to tell him I'd changed my mind. I agreed. It was the hardest thing I've ever done.

Of course they were already in church. He didn't wait for me to finish speaking. He cut the call. I couldn't stop crying.

I've tried to explain that I wasn't happy, but everybody still blames me. Some in my own family no longer speak to me. I keep to myself. End"

African societies often objectify women, making them feel like they do not have a say in matters concerning them.

Most especially when it pertains to discussions about marriage even within their family which includes parents, siblings and close relations.

This has birthed the subject of feminism, a vibrant theme that has taken the attention of women in modern Africa.

The emphasis have been on ensuring that women gain equal roles in the society particularly in a work environment and their homes.


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