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<h1>When looking for love or a partner, people are bound to make some mistakes – no one is perfect.</h1>

It might be knowingly or unknowingly, there are some common mistakes that everyone tends to make.

1.Dating your type

If that person does tick every thing on your check list then you automatically rule them out. When trying to find someone for a serious relationship then it would be best to keep an open mind. The perfect person for you may be someone that you least expect it to be.

2.Trying to change someone

They are not your project, they are a human being with real feelings and a personality. If you aren’t attracted to them and see no future between the two of you then move on instead of trying to change who that person is.

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3.Focusing too much on whether you’re doing things right

In the beginning, everyone tends to be more aware of how they act towards someone and are careful not to show their weird side too soon lest they scare someone away, which is normal. There is a flip side to this though and it is the fact that you could be focusing too much on making yourself perfect that you come off fake than genuine.

4.Thinking that because you have good chemistry then you are automatically compatible

Sometimes good chemistry can be confused for compatibility. You may have great vibes with one another but that’s about it. You aren’t able to make important decisions together or even propel each other to discover your greatest potential.

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Dating no-nos.

4 dating mistakes people are guilty of making

<h1>Yes, it’s trendy and yes it looks pretty cool but I don’t think you’ll be thinking about how trendy it is once you know the kind of nasty infection you get for not wearing socks with closed shoes.</h1>

If you are one of the “trendy’ people, you are actually putting yourself at higher risk of getting fungal infections such as athlete’s foot – and we don’t want that now do we.

The sweat, stuffiness from certain shoe fabrics and lack of socks apparently creates a very conducive environment for fungal infections. This is according to the College of Podiatry.

Speaking to the Telegraph, podiatrist Emma Stevenson says that: “If the lining is not breathable then moisture, heat, and bacteria will all be trapped inside the shoe.”

The lining of your shoes could not be the only problem however as apparently pointed toe and slip-on shoes also play a big role in getting this nasty infection.

If you’re still with trend though, <a href="http://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/beauty-health/5-ways-to-get-rid-of-smelly-feet-id7436349.html" id="87cb8c18-6c6d-5db5-bbd2-d621bcf0c6ca">there are ways to handle smelly feet</a> and avoid getting athlete’s foot.

Hakuna maneno ya KBS.

The serious health reason why you should always wear closed shoes with socks

<h1>Finding a perfume that not every woman has is hard enough but getting that unique perfume and then it turning out to only last for half the day can be very annoying.</h1>

Lucky for you, there are some simple and easy tips and tricks that you can use to leave you smelling amazing the entire day.

Spray your perfume right after leaving the shower

Apply your perfume right after getting out of the shower when your pores are open but make sure that you create a barrier with Vaseline first before doing that.

Apply Vaseline before putting on your perfume

Applying Vaseline before spraying on your perfume can really help maintain your scent for the entire day.

The Vaseline creates some form of barrier between your perfume and your skin thus slowing down absorption of the perfume in the skin.

Take the warnings seriously

Store your perfume in a cool dry place. Heat and light lessen the quality of your perfume therefore making it hard to make it last longer when you apply it.

Don’t rub your wrists together after applying perfume

Do not rub your wrists together after applying perfume as it helps break down the perfume faster therefore making it hard to make it last throughout the day.

Apply on warm areas of your body first

There are certain hot spots of your body that you spray your perfume first. For instance behind your ears or your belly button.

The warm areas of your body will help spread the fragrance across your body.

How to prolong perfume scent all day.

How to make perfume last longer

<h1>You’ve been in a relationship for a while now and things are going on pretty well. You’ve met his friends and family and are at a point in your relationship that you feel like you can tell him anything without feeling like your overstepping or like he’s going to judge you.</h1>

Okay, honesty and trust are some of the most crucial aspects of being in a relationship and this is not to encourage you to keep things from your man – because every relationship is different- but honestly sometimes it’s better to keep some things to yourself.

1. Never admit that you do not like their mother

You don’t need a genius to explain this to you. Refrain from bad-mouthing their mother even if he starts does it himself.

That’s a boundary that you do not want to cross, ever. He can talk about his mother all he wants – but not be disrespectful of course- because that’s his mother. It’s safe to say that your advice in this case is not needed.

2. Never confess to past infidelities

This is another tricky one. To help figure out whether you should or should not tell your man that you cheated on your previous lover, you need to ask yourself whether telling them will benefit your relationship in the long run.

3. Never admit that his friend hit on you

4. Never tell him all of your friend’s business

Girl code. Could we please just keep the things that we talk about with the girls amongst the girls? I mean, what if your man just lets it slip when they meet your friend one time.

5. Tell him how you think all his friends are losers

Simply put, this is just not cool. And I don’t think you’re really ready to know how he feels about your bestfriend.

They

5 things you should never confess to your boyfriend/girlfriend

<h1>There seems to be no limit to the things women can do in order to get what they want – or in this case what they do not want.</h1>

Pressure to get married has always been there since time immemorial; be it for men or for women.

One main reason why women, in specific, would get pressured to get married is because their biological clocks are ticking.

That does not seem to be much of a problem anymore however as women are now stealing men’s sperms (sperm jacking) for the sole purpose of getting pregnant. Once they get their sperm, they then ditch the guy and go on to raise the children on their own.

Times have definitely changed and the need to get married is not a necessity for a lot of women; taking ‘solutions’ such as sperm jacking as an example.

New ‘solutions’ to not wanting to get married are always coming up and Pulse Live Kenya sought to find out what some of them were – they’re quite interesting.

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1.Some women see marriage as a prison

Some women want to have the freedom to do what they want and when they want to do it without answering to anyone.

With them being married however, it limits some of the things that they want to do such as staying out late in the club with their friends.

Some women have attributed their lack of desire for marriage to women empowerment.

They feel that they are able to improve their quality of lives without needing the help of a man which in some cases would be the reason why some women would get married.

When it comes to physical satisfaction, they are able to get sex whenever and wherever they want.

Some men still get intimidated with the fact that their women are doing well in their field of work.

In such instances, some men may want to manipulate their women into halting their careers for the sake of their marriages or taking care of their children if they have any.

This can prompt women to opt not to get married.

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5.They do not see the need for husbands

From the husbands being lazy to some of them being unable to take care of their families, some women just don't see the need to deal with that in their lives.

Marriage isn't for everyone.

6 reasons why women may not want to marry

<h1>If there’s one thing that’s stressed on when it comes to eating, it has got to be to make sure to eat fruits and vegetables.</h1>

Not only are fruits and vegetables nutritious but they also have amazing health benefits. One fruit or fruits in particular are dates which have been revealed to help in the relief of not one but four pretty serious ailments.

According to research, dates can help relieve hypertension, cholesterol, strokes and heart attacks and here’s how they do just that.

Heart attacks and strokes

Eating dates at least once a day can help prevent atherosclerosis which is the main cause of heart attacks and strokes.

According to a study published in the Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry, “eating 3.75 ounces of dates every day for four weeks will help decrease your triglyceride levels by 15 percent while also reducing the amount of oxidation of fats in your blood by as much as 33 percent”.

Atherosclerosis is the hardening of the arteries which is caused by high cholesterol.

Dates also contain potassium which helps to lower the risk of stroke.

A different study conducted by Harvard Medical School found that eating about half a pound of dates a week could help to reduce blood pressure.

“Rigorous trials show that eating strategies such as the Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension (DASH) diet, DASH variants like the OmniHeart diet, and Mediterranean-type diets reduce blood pressure in people with hypertension (high blood pressure) and those headed in that direction.”

Dates also have other health benefits such as preventing diarrhea, relieving  constipation and balancing body weight.

This is how they help your heart.

The health benefits of dates for your heart

<h1>Washing your face in the shower can do some serious damage to your skin.</h1>

Yes, it may be easier and faster to get it done in the shower but doing so only damages your skin.

It’s one of the face-washing skin care mistakes that a lot of us are guilty of no doubt but experts really warn against it; and this is why.

“Hot water coming straight onto your face from the shower head can strip away your natural oils and leave your skin barrier weak, vulnerable and cracked,” licensed esthetician in New York City, Charlotte Cho told Buzzfeed.

Scrubbing your face too hard can also affect your skin because it removes the lipids, proteins and fatty acids that protect your skin thus leading to break outs and irritation.

Try wash your face with lukewarm water before getting into the shower. Make sure to pat your face dry and not scrub it to avoid damaging your skin.

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Want healthier skin? Avoid doing this.

The common mistake women make when washing their face

<h1>Every single and searching individual out there has at one point been told that they “will find love when they stop searching for it”, which can be true in some cases but for other singles; they don’t get so lucky.</h1>

The dates get more boring, <a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/4-reasons-why-you-and-your-crush-won-t-end-up-together-id8703684.html" id="be2b0e09-e588-5fd9-9cdf-8227569cf82d">the crushes keep picking the other guy/girl </a>and honestly it just looks like you are never going to get into a relationship anytime soon.

Even when you don’t realize it, you slowly give up on ever finding the love that you want and these are some indicators that you have.

1.You always think someone is messing with you

You always think that someone who expresses their interest in you is automatically trying to play with you.

You have a hard time trusting someone enough to let them in.

2.You forget what it’s like to be in a relationship

You don’t know whether you’re doing the right thing as a boyfriend or girlfriend because you’ve been single for so long.

You’re confused on how to act while in a relationship.

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3.You start thinking that there is something wrong with you

Every attempt at getting into a serious relationship has failed and you start wondering whether you could be the reason for that – which could be true in some cases.

For the women, you end up rejecting great guys that may have been more than just friends.

5.You get overwhelmed when thinking about first dates

First dates are nerve-wracking even with an active dating life but when you’re in that space where you have given up on love, the thought of going through first dates again just feels like a hustle.

For the not so lucky in the love department.

5 things that happen to you when you give up on love

<h1>Lilian Muli just released her first photo after giving birth to baby Liam and all we can say is her pregnancy snap back game is on point.</h1>

The mother of two welcomed her second born son two weeks ago but <a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/beauty-health/best-celebrity-pregnancy-snap-backs-of-2017-id7765368.html" id="a2b4c172-8506-565b-805a-b9e982e19a71">you can barely tell that she was even pregnant in the first place.</a>

"Baby is taking a nap...nanny watching him...mama taking a polite walk...2 weeks postpartum...Breastfeeding works...Thankful and Blessed. I need a better photographer...I insist IPhones take the worst pics," she captioned the photo.

Her followers were equally impressed with her post baby weight loss and sounded off in the comment section saying:

She's looking snatched!

Check out Lilian Muli’s amazing post baby body weeks after giving birth (Photo)

<h1>Men who wear boxers are reportedly more likely to be more fertile than those who wear tight underwear such as briefs.</h1>

This is according to a new study published on Wednesday in the journal Human Reproduction.

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/beauty-health/8-foods-to-eat-for-an-increase-in-sperm-count-id8292093.html" id="9a7614e9-0b7e-5ae9-9d9a-166de1a7f054">Men who wore boxers were found to have a higher sperm count</a> and a higher sperm concentration as compared to those that wear tight fitting innerwear.

Temperatures of between three to four degrees Celsius is required for successful sperm production.

These types of conditions can be achieved in a free-hanging scrotum.

Wearing tight underwear can cause “mild, but significant, impaired sperm production in men”, as explained by an honorary professor from the University of Edinburgh’s MRC Centre for Reproductive Health, Richard Sharpe.

How the study was conducted

656 men between the ages of 18 and 56 who, together with their partners, were seeking infertility treatment were studied.

Every man provided semen and blood samples. They also answered a questionnaire about their underwear.

Those that wore boxer shorts exhibited a 25 percent higher sperm concentration, a 17 percent higher sperm count, a 33 percent more motile sperm and 14 percent lower levels of follicle stimulating hormone as compared to those men that wore tight underwear – this is also factoring in certain lifestyle indicators such as smoking and physical activity.

“It may not be possible to generalize out findings to men from the general population,” said lead researcher Lidia Mínguez-Alarcón.

There is still a need for follow up research in order to get a definitive finding on whether tight underwear alone causes a dip in sperm production and quality but Ms. Mínguez-Alarcón maintains that “results from this study are very practical. Men could improve their sperm production by easily changing their type of underwear worn to boxers.”

How your underwear affects your swimmers.

How the type of underwear men wear can affect their fertility

<h1>Garlic is essential for hair growth.</h1>

It not only has amazing health benefits for the body but it can also help restore your hair to it's former long glory.

This simple recipe should help do the trick.

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Recipe courtesy of  stylecraze.com

Garlic isn't only nutritious for ingesting but it can also do wonders for your hair.

Easy garlic recipe to try out for hair growth

<h1>If you’ve been wracking your brain trying to find out why you can’t seem to find the right guy for you; the problem may be you.</h1>

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/top-7-worst-dating-mistakes-every-single-woman-makes-id8300783.html" id="91da11ac-ea99-5c00-b717-2b5a5d16ba3d">You’ve done everything; from going on dates to blind dates but the guy you like always ends up with someone else.</a>

Here are four possible reasons as outlined by relationship site Relationship Rules.

1.You take life too seriously

Basically, learn to have a little bit of fun and not be so serious about everything. Enjoy life to the fullest.

2.You come off too strong

You meet someone, things kick off well but even before your relationship begins, you’ve already started acting as if the two of you are going to be together forever.

Take things slow and let them work themselves out. If it’s meant to happen then it will happen; don’t force it.

3.Unreasonable expectations

There is no such thing as a perfect man so stop searching for him. The man that you find will have flaws and all but he will be perfect for you. Exercise tolerance.

4.You aren’t interesting to that person

Maybe you just aren’t that person’s type. Sucks but sometimes it be like that.

Well, this sucks.

4 possible reasons why your crush will end up with the other girl and not you

<h1>Sharon Mundia has been killing it with her style the past few weeks.</h1>

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/fashion/kenyan-fashionistas-show-us-how-to-rock-cold-weather-style-id8578074.html" id="a0906138-7bce-5001-9625-bead8c659c64">It’s nothing new that she has been murdering it in the fashion department</a> - she initially came out as a fashion blogger -but it would be ignorant not to notice the shift in her style.

There’s a certain sophistication and grown girl look that she’s serving up and her stylist Njoki Mohammed is nailing the theme with every look.

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/entertainment/sharon-mundia-to-replace-kobi-kihara-at-ntv-id8642940.html" id="51366e7d-64c6-5966-b5ca-0252a1226abb">She has mastered being stylish and still being appropriate for the office environment.</a>

For those looking for inspiration, it's time to ditch the boring, stale "office look" and take a page of off This is Ess fashion book

1. You can never go wrong with floral.

2. Ruffles are in. Maybe you can steal this look for your ruffle top.

3.Mustard yellow jumpsuit. Check. Melanin. Check. Slaaay!

4.The high ponytail, the white ruffled top, the pants - fire.

5.Love the black and red ensemble.

6.Love the design of her dress. It's both playful and work appropriate at the same time.

7.As we said before, <a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/fashion/lilian-muli-shows-us-how-to-rock-ruffles-id8394933.html" id="f96b308f-3f2e-5ef7-8b78-0c3c87bb5db4">ruffles are in</a> and this black jumpsuit is proof.

How amazing does she look. Can't wait for more.

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She's been killing it!

7 office style looks you should definitely steal from This is Ess (Photos)

<h1>Plus size fashion designer Neomi Ng’ang’a has revealed the number one rule that every woman should follow when dating.</h1>

According to Ms. Neomi, every woman should strive to be with a man that loves them more than they love themselves.

Targeting women that are in unappreciative relationships, <a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/neomi-nganga-gave-the-perfect-advice-on-asking-a-woman-out-id8364703.html" id="ace0e408-6323-5e79-b253-fa46569ef803">Neomi urged women in such situations to value themselves enough to walk away and not look back saying:</a>

“You try and do everything; call him, cook for him and treat him..blah blah..just to make that relationship work but still feel unwanted. Girls, you don’t have to beg for a position, walk away,” she wrote on her Instagram.

She went on to further encourage women to find someone that will appreciate them.

“Don’t be afraid of losing someone who doesn’t feel lucky to have you. You are a queen and you deserve to be treated like one.”

Her followers seemed to agree with her sentiments:

Do you agree with Neomi's sentiments?

If he doesn't appreciate you, tell him boy bye!

Neomi Ng’ang’a reveals the number one rule every woman should follow when dating

<h1>There is a common belief that all women want to have children.</h1>

But this isn’t the case for all women.

Some of them want to have children but are unable to while others are content with not having children at all.

For Kenyan musician Kaz Lucas, she is part of the latter.

In a long Instagram post, Kaz expressed her reasons for not wanting to have children saying:

“People really struggle to understand me when I say I don’t want children. I love all the children around me that all my people have already blessed me with. But it’s also okay for people not to want children or the things you think women need to have based on your social construct mind.”

She further went on to stress the fact that people are different and not everyone can fit in another’s ideals.

“Not everyone wants the same things which is why we can be different. And not everyone is capable of having children, so next time you feel the need to pressure ask someone about the decisions they make with their bodies, just remember the world doesn’t revolve around your ideals.”

And most of her followers seemed to agree with Kaz’s sentiments as they sounded off in the comment section.

Unpopular opinion?

I don’t want children – Kenyan musician Kaz Lucas reveals

<h1>One of the first thoughts that would come to mind when thinking about the health benefits of cranberry juice is the fact that it treats UTIs, amongst other infections.</h1>

That is however not the only benefit of cranberry juice for the body.

Cranberry juice can also be used to treat acne.

This is all attributed to the antiseptic properties that cranberry juice has.

It is also very rich in an anti-oxidant known as resveratrol which helps to minimize acne and pimples.

A simple face mask using cranberry juice can help make this possible.

Cranberry juice mask recipe

Create a paste by mixing cranberry juice, orange peel powder and a bit of honey.

Apply the paste all over your face.

Let it sit for about 20 minutes before washing it off with warm water.