King Kaka’s wife Nana Owiti and Singer Wahu Kagwi opened up on being molested by their own relatives at a very young age, in a candid and emotional conversation on Parenthood 101.
King Kaka’s Wife Nana Owiti & Wahu open up on being molested by their relatives at a very young age (Video)
My healing starts tomorrow with a therapist- Nana Owiti
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In her narration, Nana disclosed that she was touched inappropriately by a relative, when she was 9 years old and never forgotten the ordeal up to date. She mentioned that she will be starting therapy in order to heal and be able to forgive the person.
The switch TV presenter went on to state that she regrets not sharing the unfortunate incident with her late mother in “black and white”.
Nana Owiti's Narration
“There is this Cousin that my Mom really trusted and any time she will send food it will be this Cousin to bring… so my mom trusted this man to hare beds with me... So this man at night touches me inappropriately, and I knew it was wrong and I tell him to stop. I was in class 3, that’s around 9 years as well. So I ask him why are you doing this and he says si hata wewe unishike, then he told me ukiambia mama yako utaniona. Then we didn’t have a relationship with my Mom growing up, because she was very strict, yaani she was just a Cop hut I understand coz she had me when she was young at around 16 and she had to go back to school and even Cops were not allowed to have kids back then. Even her colleagues knew I was here small sister.
“So the next day, I don’t know how to tell my mother, but one day I got courage to tell her and I was like persoan ananichunachuna usiku. And she jokingly told him wewe kwanini unanichunia mtoto, usinichunie mtoto and that was it. And it was the same circle. I dint tell anyone up until I was pregnant with my son and that’s when I told King Kaka
This is like a trauma I have carried for so many years and I was telling King as the year began I definitely need to see a therapist concerning this” said Nana.
In a Instagram post Nana added that; “At about 9yrs when he first touched me inappropriately. For a minute I blamed God. Why did he let it happen to me? Why didn't I have the strength to stop him from carrying this gruesome deed. Narrating this story especially infront of the cameras and the world was hard but I had to have my power back. I wanted my voice back. I didn't say anything because the baby me thought I would get blamed for it or no one would believe me.
He assured the baby me that no one would believe me and in the most of the modest words I knew.. I tried to tell my mom and she missed the point. That night,he did it with arrogance.It's been decades and sadly he may not remember what he did but to me he's held a part of my life captive... My mom is long gone and this is my deepest regret. That I never told her in black and white.
I still harbor deep resentment towards him. I haven't seen him since somehow mom sent him back to his village that's miles away from our village. Finally now I want to truly heal. I want to be able to forgive him not because he deserves it but because I deserve peace. I want to break away from his jaws mentally. From a parent to another. Pay attention. Pay close attention before it's too expensive. As @wahukagwi says also..teach your children the boundaries. My heart goes to anyone going through sexual violence or is going through it. May you receive healing. My healing starts tomorrow with a therapist. Wish me luck.."
On the other hand, Wahu disclosed that she was molested by her cousin at the age of 9.
“This usually a very difficult conversation for me because its easier to heal from a physical wound, but an emotional wound, sometimes we don’t have tools to deal with my emotional wounds. So what happened used to happen is whenever I could remember it just takes me to a dark space.
He was 19, I don’t want to go into details but he molested me and I knew it was a bad thing and I was 9. I was angry, felt violated and I was a kid. That moment stayed with me and it has stayed with me has something very painful… thankful when my mom came back I was crying …. but I got courage to share with my Mom and she told my Dad. Dad was very angry and he likes to talk things out but my brother who was like 16 said mimi sina time ya kuongea… he went beat his guy” said Wahu in part.
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