Do you talk to your kids about sex education? If not, you should start doing so. I know it might still feel awkward because some of our parents never talked to us about sex since it was seen as a taboo.
And according to family therapist Grace Kariuki, you should start talking to your kids about sex education as early as possible instead of avoiding the discussion.
Teach them the correct names of their sex organs
“Let us start by teaching our kids the proper and correct names of our reproductive organs. Our preschoolers should know the proper names of all their body parts. Historically, parents have shied away from using the proper words due to the shame surrounding the subject of sex and sexuality. Parents need to overcome this shame and realize that because we are living in the era of information, if we do not train our kids about sex and sexuality, they will learn from somewhere else and more often than not, the information will be distorted or incorrect.” The expert advises.
We have had cases of kids who have been molested and remained silent because they did not know that it was wrong. Nobody taught them about it. As such, Grace recommends also teaching your kids about safe touch. Your kid should also be free to speak to you if they are sexually molested without feeling ashamed about it.
Take advantage of kids' curiosity
If you are having a hard time introducing the topic to your kid, the therapist recommends taking advantage of the kid’s curiosity since toddlers tend to be very curious about their own bodies and those of the opposite sex.
Never lie to your kids
“This should be a good opportunity to discuss family values and expectations. Kids need to know that they have control over their bodies and shouldn't allow anyone to touch them in an inappropriate way. We talk to them about what to do if it happens to them. When you have a curious kid who might ask you questions like, "What s sex?" or "How did the baby get into your stomach?", engage them in a discussion to find out what has triggered the question. This technique will work with kids of all ages. In other words, try to find out what the "real" question is. It is also important to find out what they already know so that you can correct any misconceptions.” Says Grace.
Even though you are having a hard time talking to your kids about sex education, by all means, you should never lie to your kid. Grace tells us that it is better to tell them you will discuss it later while you go do your research.