Relationships 7 tips to stop obsessing over a past relationship

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Forget him sis, he's not worth your pain

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It’s safe to assume that each one of us has been through a breakup.

A breakup is the most painful thing ever and the worst part is, you can’t even explain how you’re feeling. The positive thing though is that with time, we heal. But the healing process is not easy…you have to be strong cause if you’re not, you can easily sink into depression.

If you just broke up with a lover and you’re desperately wondering how to get over that relationship, fret not, these tips will help you move on.

1. Cut off all communication with your ex.

It’s hard, really hard, I know. But it’s necessary. You have nothing more to discuss. Think of it as the last chapter of a book. What do you do when you’re done reading a book? You give it to the next person that wants to read it or stash it away. Communicating with your ex will only make you miss him more.

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2. Get off social media.

Taking a small break from social media will help you recollect yourself. Plus, if you were friends on social media platforms you will keep seeing their activities and this will only make you feel worse. The best thing would be to delete anything that reminds you of them. Delete them from social media, delete their number, all messages etc. The less you think of him, the faster you’ll heal.

ALSO READ: 4 good reasons you should block your ex from your social media


3. Accept what has happened.

Accept and move on. Don’t look for the what ifs. What’s done is done.

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4. Stay active and get support from friends.

Don’t stay alone. Solitude will make you feel immense sadness. Get support from your friends and plan activities with them, be it attending social events, grabbing a pizza or even a road trip. Do things that you love and things that get you in a happy mood.


5. Improve yourself.

Aim at being a better person. Work on your flaws. Especially the flaws that perhaps caused rifts in the relationship. Be a better listener, communicator, learn how to control your emotions such as how to act when angry etc.


6. Be independent.

Learn to be self-dependent in a way that you do not really anyone in your life to be happy. It’s important to be happy with yourself. Remember you cannot pour from an empty glass. If you can’t love yourself, how can you love somebody else?




7. Start dating again.

One bad relationship doesn’t mean that you will never find love again. Go on dates. Do not rush though and don’t date just because you don’t want to be single. Take it slow and eventually, you’ll find the ying to your yang.

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ALSO READ: 4 things you need to consider before getting into a new relationship

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