Marriage How wives are destroying their marriages

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It's not him, it's you.

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In order to make a marriage work, both parties need to put equal effort into it.

While everyone is definitely not perfect there are some common mistakes that wives make that can destroy their marriages.

Using harsh, demeaning words when communicating with their husbands

Sometimes when people get hurt, some hurtful things may be said and a lot of women are notorious of doing just that. It’s hard but there is always another way of communicating disappointment or being hurt.


Avoid using degrading words or trying to put your husband down when in an argument because once those words leave your mouth, you may apologise but the damage may already be done.

Always projecting bitterness and anger

Nobody likes a bitter Betty and that includes your husband. Always projecting negativity and bitterness towards your husband can affect your marriage.

One core point of marriage is happiness. For most people, marriage began from love and happiness so when that happiness dwindles things can start to get a bit rocky.

It’s okay to be upset but don’t allow it to turn into bitterness.

Having unrealistic expectations for their husbands

A lot of women are very guilty of expecting the most from their men. When the same is expected of them however, there is suddenly a problem with how much their spouses expect of them.

You can’t expect 100 percent when you’re only willing to give out 50 percent- there has to be a balance and this is an issue that a lot of women need to look into.

Withholding sex from your partner

There are a number of reasons why women would not want to get intimate with their partners. They may have just had a baby for instance and still need time to heal or honestly just aren’t feeling it that day.


Withholding sex for payback or because you want to teach him a lesson, however, is probably not the best way to communicate that you are upset with him.

Intimacy and affection play a big role in keeping a marriage intact. Men want some love too.

Always talking over their husbands

Imagine if you were trying to get a point across and your husband keeps interrupting you every time they do not agree with what you have to say.

“Babe, I’m trying to explain to you what really happened with that mon…”. “ I don’t care what happened to it, all I know is that you spent it without consulting me”. See how annoying that can be.

Listen more and speak less especially if in an argument situation.

Over-exposing your husband

Speaking about your husband, especially in bad light, to your friends and family not only exposes your marriage but helps to tarnish his reputation as well.


Over sharing is a habit that a lot of women are very guilty of and is also one that they may want to try and relax on doing.

Rejecting his ideas

If your man gives you advice, always give him a fair chance and listen to what he has to say. If the piece of advice doesn’t apply to that particular situation it could apply to another situation. Don’t be quick to dismiss his ideas so quickly without thinking things through.

He gave you that piece of advice because he wanted to so learn to take it whole heartedly.

Source: Paired Life

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