Big age gaps within relationships can go either one of two ways; really bad or really good, depending on the situation.

There has been enough talk about why young women opt to date an older man especially in Kenya where having a sponsor or dating a man old enough to be your father seems to be the trend.

On the older men’s side, the reasons why they choose to date a younger woman as compared to a woman their age or closer to their age ranges from them wanting to feel younger when they are with younger women to them feeling like younger women are less stubborn.

With every relationship however, there are always some things to consider before actually dating that person and in this case it is dating a younger woman.

If you are thinking of dating a younger woman, let’s say 10+ years younger, here are some things to consider.

1.She is not that mature

At least to the level of maturity you may expect her to be.

She is young and is still discovering who she is and what her purpose in life is so do not expect her to relate to the same life experience as you.

She may be “really mature for her age” but may not be able to understand the need to invest money for future use instead of spending all of it on keeping up with the new fashion trends.

You won’t be able to relate and you will spend half the time fathering her than being her lover.

And if she does act like this, she may just be too young for you friend.

2.Your thoughts and perceptions of life will be different

An older man will definitely have more experience with life as compared to a younger woman so sometimes the conversations will not always be in sync as you expect them to be.

You are both experiencing life at a different pace so you should definitely consider this before dating younger woman.

3.They will expect a lot from you

Let’s take a step back and recount some reasons why young women want sponsors or choose to date older men.

Financial security and maturity top the list for what most of these young women are looking for in older men.

So what happens when you do not match up?

These expectations may sometimes feel unrealistic but they are important to consider before starting that relationship with that young woman.

4.You will expect a lot from them

Young women come with their own flaws as well.

They cannot all be the free spirited and problem free woman that older men might fantasize about.

So if you are dating a younger woman then it would be best to not have too high expectations for them – and this applies to any relationship.

Sit down, have a word about what the two of you expect from each other and then decide what to do after.