Kenyans are becoming more open to intercultural and even interracial dating. But there are still challenges that come with it. Some of our parents are still not open to such relationships. As such, there are people who will not date or marry someone from a certain ethnic group simply because their parents are against it. And some of those who go ahead and get married do not always get the right treatment from their in-laws.
But the problem is not usually just from friends and relatives. Even the couple sometimes face challenges due to their different cultural background and upbringing.
ALSO READ: Avoid these mistakes when meeting your lover's parents for the first time
Hereâs the thing, if you choose to date someone who is from a different culture or ethnic background, try as much as possible not to do these things:
1. Force them to subscribe to your beliefs
[Credit - Make a Gif]
If you believe in invoking the spirits of the ancestors during certain rituals and your partner doesnât, please respect that. Whether to follow your beliefs should be their own choice.
2. Believe in their stereotypes
Itâs been said that Kikuyus love money, and now, Kikuyu ladies are dreaded because apparently, they can do anything for money â including killing you. While one rotten apple spoils the barrel, you canât buy the idea that the whole community is that way.
3. Criticizing their beliefs
secrets gif(Tenor)
You can ask to know more about what your partner believes in. But itâs wrong to try and show them that they are wrong and your cultural beliefs are the right ones. Please respect the difference.
4. Act shocked about their culture
Well, you might be shocked but you donât have to rub it in. Donât be like âOh my God I canât believe you guys eat such gross things like omenaâ. Again, respect.
5. Insult their culture
No gif (Giphy)
I have heard people say, âThatâs childishâ in regards to a certain peopleâs culture. See, you donât have to subscribe to their âchildishâ activities. Especially if your partner is deeply rooted in their culture, be careful with the things you say.
In short, tolerance is the most important thing in interracial and intercultural dating. If you donât have that, please date from your own culture or the culture you are more comfortable with.Â