Feel like a doormat in your relationship? These may explain why.
However, there are blatant displays of power by a spouse that may leave the significant other reeling while they question whether they are doormats in the relationship.
A healthy relationship contains a reasonable amount of compromise, mutual decision making and consensual deferment when someone else is the expert in something.
But when it seems like you are just along for the ride in your relationship, your partner may have the reins. Or if you feel as though you are at the mercy of your spouse.
1. You only consider one partner's schedule
Whenever an event is to be attended or you're going on a date, and only one partner's schedule is considered, that partner holds the power. If your spouse has a meeting and something has to be reschedule but when you have a meeting- you have to put your date first then sort the meeting- your partner holds the power.
2. One partner decides when any changes can happen in the relationship
When going into a relationship, you advance to the next level based on mutual feelings. But sometimes, one person dictates when it all happens. Now while you should be patient if your partner isn't ready to try something, other couples see themselves in situations where one partner decides when these steps are taken without the consent of the spouse.
3. One partner's taste is the only one that matters
Imagine a situation where a husband decorates the entire house in a football team's regalia because it's his favourite team (not his wife's) and she had no say because "he was the one paying".
4. Only one partner makes decisions
Whether it's choosing a place to go out for lunch, where to live, which car to buy- only one partner decides this without any input from the spouse.
5. Only one partner controls the money
Whether a double income or single income couple, only one partner decides how the money is spent. S/he may not have contributed a cent or even is the sole breadwinner but s/he controls the purse strings. A purchase can't be made without checking with them first.